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June 07 2015

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by queeravenger

This post is going to explore how biphobia, misogyny, and rape culture intersect at an institutional level to cause the disproportionate rates of sexual violence seen against bisexual women.

Trigger warnings: discussion of rape, corrective rape, sexual assault, sexual harassment, intimate partner violence, abuse, victim blaming, depression, PTSD, suicide, and some graphic examples of biphobic victim blaming

Bisexual women have the highest rates of rape and sexual assault

  • Bisexual women have a 46.1% chance of being forcibly raped. This rate is 2.6 times higher than straight women and 3.5 times higher than lesbian women. Bisexual women also have a 74.9% chance of being coercively raped or sexually assaulted. This rate is 1.7 times higher than straight women and 1.6 times higher than lesbian women (source).
  • 78% of bisexual women report lifetime sexual victimization. Bisexual women report more severe adult victimization and significantly greater rates of revictimization (source).
  • So why is this happening?
  • Bisexual women are hypersexualized. We are stereotyped as promiscuous, slutty, dirty, and always interested in sexual attention. Men are taught by our culture to view bisexual women as sexual objects whose purpose is to fulfill their sexual desires, making it that much easier to disrespect bisexual women’s consent and justify sexual violence against us. This is closely tied to the victim blaming stereotypes that are used to invalidate any victim who can be viewed as too sexual and therefore not a valid victim. As Shiri Eisner put it, “what we have to say about [sexual attention], and whether or not we want to be sexual with anyone, just doesn’t matter. Because our bisexuality is made out to be not about us, but about cishet men” (source).
  • Bisexual women are fetishized. We are seen as sexual objects, as walking porn fantasies, as one-third of a threesome, rather than actual human beings. This causes sexual harassment, sexual assault, abuse, and rape that are specific to (one-male, two-female) threesome fantasies. Bi women frequently report experiences of men soliciting them for threesomes the moment they discover their bisexual identity, which is a form of degrading sexual harassment. Bi women report similar experiences with online dating profiles, even if their profile explicitly states that they are not interested in threesomes. Bi women are also coerced or forced into threesomes because of this.
  • Other biphobic stereotypes about bi women contribute to sexual assault. For example, we are also stereotyped as pretending to be bisexual specifically for men’s attention, which frames things like sexual harassment, assault, and rape as forms of “attention” that we wanted to receive.
  • Bi women are sometimes correctively raped. Corrective rape is a hate crime in which someone is raped because of their sexual orientation or gender identity. Bisexual women experience corrective rape as a form of punishment for being bisexual, usually with the goal of making them heterosexual.
  • Although much of this is related to the way men (especially cis, straight men) are taught to view bisexual women, and although most of the sexual violence against bisexual women is perpetrated by men, people of any gender are capable of believing these stereotypes and perpetuating sexual violence against bisexual women.

Bisexual women have the highest rates of intimate partner violence

  • Bisexual people report significantly higher rates of emotional, financial, sexual, and physical intimate partner violence compared to gay and lesbian people (source).
  • 49.3% of bisexual women are victims of severe physical intimate partner violence. Bisexual women have a 61.1% lifetime prevalence of rape, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner (source).
  • Why?
  • Abusers tend to target marginalized people, period. Marginalized people are already in a position to have lower self-esteem, be less likely to have supportive friends, family, and communities, have less access to services like counseling and healthcare, be more likely to be treated poorly if they report, and on and on. This is painfully true for bisexuals, because we are not only unsupported by society at large but also often rejected from gay and lesbian spaces and denied their support.
  • Abusive partners sometimes use biphobia to perpetuate sexual violence against their bisexual partners. Abusers might coerce or force their bisexual partners into unwanted sexual acts or threesomes because they are bisexual and they’re “supposed” to want to do those things. Some abusers force their bisexual partners into unwanted open or polyamorous relationships, or expect their bisexual partners to tolerate cheating. 
  • Abusers draw on society’s biphobic narratives to reinforce and legitimize their abuse. For example, it’s common for abusers to say abusive things to their victims like this: “I know you’re cheating on me.” “No one else will ever love you.” “I know you’re lying to me.” But watch how the abuse is strengthened by biphobia: “I know you’re cheating on me, because everyone knows bisexuals are cheaters.” “No one else will ever love you, because no one wants to date a bisexual.” “I know you’re lying, because bisexuals aren’t trustworthy.” And sometimes, biphobia itself is the abuse. “You have to call yourself straight/gay/lesbian if you’re going to be with me.” “I will out you as bisexual if you don’t [do this].” When a bi person being abused hears the same biphobic stereotypes they’ve heard their whole life, it’s not just coming from their abuser - it feels like the whole world agrees. It’s a strategy to make victims feel even more powerless.

Bisexual women have the lowest rates of social support after disclosing victimization

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  • Bisexual women have low social support to begin with. Bisexual people have less social support from family and friends (source). Bisexual people are less likely to be out of the closet than gay and lesbian people (source). Bisexual women and lesbians have comparable rates of mental distress in non-urban areas, but while lesbian women’s mental distress lowers significantly in urban areas, bisexual women’s nearly double. Researchers believe this is because of the lack of social support for bisexual women from lesbian and gay communities (source).
  • Biphobic stereotypes about bisexual women create barriers to social support after disclosing trauma. For example, we are stereotyped as untrustworthy liars, which leads to people being less likely to believe or support bi women survivors. The stereotypes of bisexual women as promiscuous and slutty lead to victim-blaming and the belief that either we were not raped or that it was our fault. The stereotype that bisexual women are lying for attention, combined with the widespread belief that women lie about being raped for attention, also contributes to this.
  • Bisexual women are often excluded from LGBT communities and have difficulty finding bisexual communities. If they can find a community, the chances of it being a safe space for bi women survivors are quite slim. LGBT and bi communities continue to have problems addressing intra-community issues of misogyny and rape culture.
  • Sexual assault resources cater to cisgender straight women. LGBT recovery resources are rare, and they usually cater to cisgender gay and lesbian victims. These resources are often unhelpful for bi women, or even unsafe or hostile towards them - although bisexual women survivors report reaching out to the greatest number of formal support resources, they were the least likely to report these resources as helpful (source). There are no known rape recovery resources specifically for bisexual women, other than this blog.
  • Other resources, such as counseling, also often have problems of misogyny, biphobia, and rape culture. Bisexual people often report negative experiences with mental healthcare providers who view their bisexuality as a symptom of mental illness to be overcome. Bisexual people sometimes even experience conversion therapy when seeking out counseling from someone who pressures them to adopt a straight or gay identity instead of a bisexual one. In the same study mentioned above, bisexual women survivors were the most likely to speak to a psychologist, psychiatrist, or mental health professional, but, again, the least likely to report these services as helpful (source).

Bisexual women have the highest rates of depression and PTSD post-rape

  • (source)
  • Bisexual women have higher rates of mental illness to begin with. 45.4% of bisexual women have considered or attempted suicide. This compares to 34.8% for bisexual men, 29.5% for lesbian women, 25.2% for gay men, 9.6% for straight women, and 7.4% for straight men (source). Bisexual people report higher rates of anxiety, depression, suicidality, and negative affect compared to their gay and heterosexual counterparts (source).
  • Bi women survivors are more likely to have experiences that increase the likelihood of depression. Depression after sexual violence is often related to a lack of support, lack of access to recovery resources, feelings of isolation, and experiences of victim blaming - areas in which bisexual women are much worse off.
  • Similarly, bi women survivors are more likely to have experiences that lead to PTSD. PTSD after sexual violence can be related to the traumatic nature of the sexual violence itself or to retraumatizing experiences in the aftermath, and bisexual women survivors experience unique and frequent retraumatization. For example, bisexual women frequently encounter degrading and sexually objectifying language about themselves from society at large as well as from the LGBT community - bi women are described as “slutty,” “dirty,” “sexually available to men,” “cocksuckers,” “dick-worshippers,” “bihets,” and so on. Such language is sexually objectifying and misogynistic towards all bisexual women, and very triggering to those of us who have been assaulted or raped by cis men. Experiencing frequent sexual harassment like unwanted sexual attention and threesome proposals is also retraumatizing. Bisexual women also report higher rates of revictimization, which is extremely retraumatizing and associated with higher chances of developing PTSD.
  • The inaccessibility of mental health resources for bi women survivors makes it difficult for us to cope with and recover from mental illness.

Other reasons

  • Bisexual people are more likely to be disabled, transgender and people of color, meaning that disabled bisexual women, trans bisexual women, and bisexual women of color are dealing with ableism, transmisogyny, and/or racism on top of biphobia, misogyny, and rape culture. This significantly increases their chances of facing sexual violence and intimate partner violence. If they do, they are even more likely to experience depression, PTSD, and low social support. It is also important when analyzing the above statistics to keep in mind that white, cisgender, and abled bisexual women have lower chances of these negative experiences.
  • Bi women survivors who didn’t figure out their bisexual identity until after their trauma, or who were closeted to their abusers and rapists, are still impacted by all of this. Marginalization, even when not obvious or announced, still makes people more vulnerable to abuse and violence. Issues like low social support, inaccessible recovery resources, and higher rates of mental illness are problems for these bi women survivors as well.
  • Since this issue is largely invisible and misunderstood, there are no known sexual violence prevention efforts specific to bisexual women.


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makoharu [throws computer out the window]

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“In 2002, having spent more than three years in one residence for the first time in my life, I got called for jury duty. I show up on time, ready to serve. When we get to the voir dire, the lawyer says to me, “I see you’re an astrophysicist. What’s that?” I answer, “Astrophysics is the laws of physics, applied to the universe—the Big Bang, black holes, that sort of thing.” Then he asks, “What do you teach at Princeton?” and I say, “I teach a class on the evaluation of evidence and the relative unreliability of eyewitness testimony.” Five minutes later, I’m on the street.

A few years later, jury duty again. The judge states that the defendant is charged with possession of 1,700 milligrams of cocaine. It was found on his body, he was arrested, and he is now on trial. This time, after the Q&A is over, the judge asks us whether there are any questions we’d like to ask the court, and I say, “Yes, Your Honor. Why did you say he was in possession of 1,700 milligrams of cocaine? That equals 1.7 grams. The ‘thousand’ cancels with the ‘milli-’ and you get 1.7 grams, which is less than the weight of a dime.” Again I’m out on the street.”

Note to self, you can be too smart to serve on a jury.

What the actual fuck

Pay attention to the “justice” system.

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Nico Nico in the trash is the strongest cosplay

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this was too cute

teppei kiyoshi: cinnamints

makoto hanamiya: xxxmokona

koutarou hayama: ?????


That “ignoring each other” game can turn into a “never hearing from me again” game real fast

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Kaneki Ken + outfits


reblog to delete america



please stop having disdain for people with asperger’s disorder (or any other form of autism this applies to – but i have asperger’s, so i can only speak for myself) because of things we do that are linked to or a result of us having asperger’s disorder.

like when i do something that i don’t know is socially inappropriate, or because i forgot i was in a social setting and thus did this thing, and you think “lol what a freak oMQ” and make fun of me with your friends so they’ll think you’re edgy and OH so HILARIOUS or whatever… that is an act of ableism.

when you get mad at and/or yell at me for not understanding what you said right away, or for taking you too literally… that is an act of ableism.

when you make fun of my odd speech patterns or other eccentric things about the way i communicate with people… that is an act of ableism.

and most importantly, stop acting like you’re totes not ableist for doing these things just because you “don’t hate me/find me annoying/whatever for having asperger’s, but because i do [x]”. i do [x] because i have asperger’s, so, by proxy, you DO in fact hate me/find me annoying/whatever because i have asperger’s.

“but you doing [x] makes me uncomfortable!” then tell me – NICELY. i am still learning to read and interpret facial expressions and tone of voice, so i will not always automatically know if you are uncomfortable. if you want me to know for sure, say “can you please stop doing that? i am uncomfortable.”

if you think the person you’re dealing with will be hurt by you saying that, you can also preface it with “i’m not mad at you or anything, but”. (as someone who also has an anxiety disorder, i personally like to know that you’re not mad at me! – but don’t say that if you ARE mad at me, though. i do not appreciate dishonesty; in my opinion dishonesty is just as bad as laughing about me behind my back.)

this has been a PSA… GOOD NIGHT NEW YORK CITY*!!!!!!!

*not actually new york city; this is a reference to that one show whose name i forget, in which they say that after the theme song.

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off-the-shoulder pink knit sweater // walktrendy

free shipping worldwide

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lazy doodles from twitter celebrating the solo character song debut of the laziest guy ever (i relate)

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did you know how hilarious the patch notes to the sims are


  • A faint line is no longer visible on the heads of babies.
  • Fish are no longer duplicated in the fridge when moving homes.
  • Sims can no longer “Try for Baby” with the Grim Reaper.
  • Sims who are on fire will no longer be forced to attend graduation before they can put themselves out.
  • Children and Teens can no longer die from motive failure while on a Time Out.
  • Pianists will no longer continue playing pianos that have been detonated.
  • Sims will no longer receive a wish to “Skinny Dip” with Mummies.
  • Pregnant Sims can no longer “Brawl.”
  • Sims can no longer WooHoo in the Elevator with a Sim who is on a different floor.
  • Fixed an issue that caused Sims to leave their Toddler inside a bar at closing time.
  • The Grim Reaper will no longer be prevented from reaping souls due to band affiliation.
  • Kleptomaniac Sims can no longer steal Subway stations from lots.
  • Fixed a tuning issue so that Sims now vomit at acceptable levels.
  • The magical laundry bear Abracadabra will no longer block Sims from moving after disappearing
  • Tourist NPCs can now be impregnated.
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akashi no

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